TONY CHAVEZ, EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR OF DEDICATED CARE, ON THE CHUCK LEONARD SHOW.
How do I deal with the guilt of handing over my loved one’s care?
You can’t live your life, fulfill your own personal responsibilities and be available to meet all the needs of your loved ones. We can provide you with an option that will allow you to do more meaningful things with your loved ones. Hiring a specialist for elder care will eliminate the resentment that you may eventually feel as you spend more and more time providing care. Rather than damage your relationship, you will actually build and improve it. In hiring a caregiver, you are making sure your time is spent providing love and support, rather than care.
I don’t want strangers in my house. What if I don’t like them?
Stress that each fully trained caregiver in Fresno County comes from a reputable organization. All of these organizations are thoroughly screened, bonded and insured. We are committed to working with you to find a caregiver that will not only meet your needs, but that you will also be comfortable with.
What will my friends think?
When they see the benefits of what you are getting with our home care in Fresno County, they will want a caregiver too. They will actually be envious of your care and see it as your loved one taking care of you.
It’s one more sign that I’m getting too old?
Isn’t it preferable to manage aging rather than fight it? Often the decision to seek care is made in time of crisis. Evaluate what the needs are now and try to anticipate what they will be later as they continue the aging process. It doesn’t need to be the one thing that signals they are throwing in the towel but rather a chance to continue doing what they enjoy and maintain their independence and standard of living.
It costs too much money. It’s not worth it. I just need a little extra help?
Get your loved ones to try it for a trial period so that they can begin to see the benefits. They will start feeling the burden of daily demands diminish. Explain that long term this service will allow them to stay living in their home indefinitely rather than having to be moved into a smaller place or a facility. Finally, we can work with you to show the comparable cost of remaining at home with companion care vs. moving to assisted living as they get older.
You are trying to dump me on someone else. I won’t see you anymore if someone else is here?
Stress to your loved one that you want to spend time with them, not just do chores for them. Maybe you can’t always be there when support is needed due to your own responsibilities; the caregiver can be there when you can’t. Your loved one will not be losing your support but gaining the additional help of a caregiver. Your loved one will have more companionship and will be able to have things when they want them not just when it fits into your schedule. The two of you can pick the times you want to spend together doing what you want to do rather than what needs to be done.
Overcoming resistance to accepting help?
Try to involve your loved one in the decision making process as much as possible. They may still need to feel that they are in control of their own lives and the decision making process. Find out what tasks have become difficult for them and which areas they need help with. Stress that hiring a companion will free you up to spend more “quality” time with your loved ones rather than doing chores and meeting daily demands.
How do I speak to my parent, spouse or loved one about choosing home care?
Family members are the most likely choice to provide care for a parent, spouse, or a sibling once extra support is needed. Unfortunately, this can put a tremendous strain on everyone. The family member can quickly become overwhelmed by the additional responsibility leading to feelings of resentment. The care receiver can experience guilt and diminished self-worth for shifting this burden onto a loved one. We offer a solution that can benefit both sides in this situation. Before this care can be received in the home however there may be several main obstacles to overcome.
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